Right Path, Wrong Destination

It put a strain on the rest of our family and a huge stress on our marriage.

2 Samuel 11:1-27

Reference: “Uriah said to David, “The ark and Israel and Judah are staying in tents, and my commander Joab and my lord’s men are camped in the open country. How could I go to my house to eat and drink and make love to my wife? As surely as you live, I will not do such a thing!”” 2 Samuel‬ ‭11:11‬ ‭NIV‬‬

Explore: Sometimes doing the right thing leads to a difficult path.

For three years we had two foster boys in our family. I say “in our family” because they weren’t just a part of our home, but became a part of our whole lives.

For three years we did our very best to love and care for them. But it was incredibly tough.

Both boys had challenging behaviours and we felt out of our depth. It put a strain on the rest of our family and a huge stress on our marriage.

It broke my heart to make the decision for our boys to move to another home. It seemed so unfair that we had thought we were doing the right thing by bringing them into our family, and yet, it just ended up breaking our hearts.

It taught me that even though we may strive to do the right thing, with all the correct intentions, there are times when you still find yourself in a difficult place.

Application: The story of David and Bethsheeba is quite well known. It was one of David’s greatest failings and has been documented for the world to know!

But as I read through this story again I was reminded of how good Uriah – Bethsheeba’s husband – really was. He was loyal and respectful and had integrity even when he was away from his commander. Despite all that, he found himself in a terrible position.

This was not God’s plan or His delight. When we start out on the right path but find ourselves still in the wrong place, know that you were not wrong and God did not do a number on you.

We live in a fallen world and, at times, bad things happen. May it not deter us from persevering on what we believe to be the right path that God truly does delight in.

Prayer: Lord, we don’t always have the understanding of why things happen. No matter what life throws at us, thank You for always being there for us and not losing faith in us. Amen.

When has life served you up a challenging situation?

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This article was written by Linda Bailey

Linda started theological studies in 1999 in Australia. After working for ten years in various church ministries, she now works as the breakfast producer at 89.9 LightFM - the Christian radio station in Melbourne, Australia. She writes blogs every day about passages she is currently reading in the Bible. Follow her on Google Plus +Linda Bailey or Facebook by clicking the like button on the right of this page.


vmaripMarch 14, 2016 at 2:43 AMReply

It really boils down to your motivation: what is really driving you to do a thing? Boy, the messages Today from God are all about being true to yourself, and God…. the ODB message Today is about being good to yourself… there is another site I visited that stressed bringing to action your God given Gifts….and, your message is really about being true to yourself….
But Really, they all point to one final thing: Lk 10:27 And he answered, “YOU SHALL LOVE THE LORD YOUR GOD WITH ALL YOUR HEART, AND WITH ALL YOUR SOUL, AND WITH ALL YOUR STRENGTH, AND WITH ALL YOUR MIND; AND YOUR NEIGHBOR AS YOURSELF.” ( This, Jesus said it the Greatest Commandment of all other Commandments)…. see, Uriah wasn’t really such a perfect overly nice guy; he put his army buddies before his wife….he, like so many chose supposed self-denial over the commandment that God gave us to honor and Love our Spouse, and that when you marry, you are ONE with that person….Uriah was actually being selfish in acting supposedly “unselfish”…. because he neglected his wife, and lost her… and then his life…. many People act as sufferers, when really, they are acting in vain, to look like the suffering hero….
So, now we look at some other life choices we make…. what is motivating you? Is it Love or self-indulgence? Take the article writer: what possible good did it do those two poor little boys to be put in a home that regarded them as an interference? and then be tossed away when they became too inconvenient… and the writer keeps calling them ” our boys” but Linda, if you really felt that way, you would have stuck it out to the end… like God does with you…. No, see, your motivation was wrong to begin with… If you had gone with what was really in your heart; you never would have taken the children in in the first place, and so not have caused more rejection and pain in their young lives, or yours….
This is so common with us sheep…. because we have not been taught that we are suppose to Love ourselves FIRST BEFORE we can Love another Person… so, see the Right Order of Love is: 1: Love God with all that you have; Your Heart, Your Mind, Your Soul, Your Body (which is your strength) and THEN 2: Love Yourself, the way God Loves You; and THEN Love everyone ELSE the way You Love YOU….. If you do this, then your motivation will be Love first, and many problems will be avoided….

Linda BaileyMarch 16, 2016 at 5:50 PMReply

I find your perspective very black and white but I appreciate you taking the time to share your thoughts. I must say I find love in real life a lot more complicated that what you have presented.