You know when you’ve forgiven someone because you no longer wish them ill.
Reference: “Do not gloat when your enemy falls; when they stumble, do not let your heart rejoice,” Proverbs 24:17 NIV
Explore: A few years ago I was deeply hurt by a colleague. He was unhappy about a decision I had made and set out to make my life difficult.
I felt that he lied, deceived and led people away from me. As a result I ended up leaving my job.
While I stopped being in his physical presence, the impact of the situation stayed with me. I had to process my hurt and pain and I knew I needed to forgive him.
I tried saying it over and over in my head, “I forgive him, I forgive him” but I still argued with him in my mind. I read that you know when you’ve forgiven someone because you no longer wish them ill.
To be honest, it took a long time for this to happen and I still have to make a concerted effort to not think poorly of this guy.
Application: Getting along with different types of people can be tricky. There are some people you just don’t connect with and it takes more time to appreciate them.
Proverbs reminds us how to keep our thoughts on Godly wisdom. “Do not gloat when your enemy falls; when they stumble, do not let your heart rejoice.”
When it’s written like this it seems obvious, however, I still find this challenging. It’s like it’s a little victory if someone who has hurt us is hurt in return.
But what does that really achieve? Does their pain make yours go away? No, pain + pain does not equal healing.
To find true healing we must continue to act out the wisdom God gives to us and follow His ways. The more we focus on God, the less time we have to worry about our enemies.
Prayer: Lord, our hearts can be filled with such pain at the actions of others. May I stay focused on what my actions are to stay humble and holy. Amen.
Is there someone in your life whom you struggle to forgive?
This article was written by Linda Bailey
Linda started theological studies in 1999 in Australia. After working for ten years in various church ministries, she now works as the breakfast producer at 89.9 LightFM - the Christian radio station in Melbourne, Australia. She writes blogs every day about passages she is currently reading in the Bible. Follow her on Google Plus +Linda Bailey or Facebook by clicking the like button on the right of this page.