Instead of being honest about her feelings she used the “God line”
Reference: v.3 …and he gave this message: “This is the message of Balaam son of Beor, the message of a man who sees clearly;” (NCV Bible)
Explore: When a friend of mine was on the dating scene she found herself in a budding relationship that wasn’t quite right. There wasn’t anything specifically wrong with the guy, but she found herself in a, “I’m just not that into you” situation. Instead of being honest about her feelings she used the “God line”, and said to the guy that God had told her the relationship couldn’t go any further. A few months later she found herself falling for another guy. She was excited when they started dating only to find herself in a “I’m just not that into you” conversation again. This time it was the guy who used the “God line” and sat her down to say that God had told him the relationship couldn’t go any further. She was really devastated about the sudden close to the relationship. She was saddened because she really liked this guy, but also because she realized that he had used the “God line” instead of being truly honest about his own feelings.
Application: Now, don’t get me wrong, there are times when God does communicate to us strongly about certain situations. But there are other times when people use the “God line” just to get out of being honest about how they actually feel. In Numbers, Balaam finds himself in a dangerous situation where it would have been really easy for him to use the “God line”. A king had asked him to curse the Israelites, but he heard clearly from God that he should not curse them. Balaam explained to the king what God had said to him but he also had some words of wisdom of his own. He didn’t share his wisdom saying, “Oh, and God also said…” but he explained that out of the wisdom he had gained from following God, he also wanted to express his own thoughts. My friend was probably wise to break off her initial relationship, but instead of using the “God line” and saying that God told her to break it off, she should have been honest and said that from her reflection on how she was feeling she did not think the relationship was going to work. God shouldn’t be a scapegoat for our difficult conversations, but a source of wisdom and truth as we weave our way through the challenging relationships of life.
Prayer: Lord, help me to be open and honest about my feelings and the wisdom that I have gained from following You. Amen.
How difficult do you find it to be honest about your thoughts and feelings?
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This article was written by Linda Bailey
Linda started theological studies in 1999 in Australia. After working for ten years in various church ministries, she now works as the breakfast producer at 89.9 LightFM - the Christian radio station in Melbourne, Australia. She writes blogs every day about passages she is currently reading in the Bible. Follow her on Google Plus +Linda Bailey or Facebook by clicking the like button on the right of this page.