Strangely enough, talking about someone behind their backs does not help to put a disagreement to rest!
Reference: v.15 “If your brother sins against you, go and show him his fault, just between the two of you. If he listens to you, you have won your brother over.” (NIV Bible)
Explore: When you live with a teenage girl you certainly hear a lot about conflict! Every day there can be a story told about an inconsiderate action or some blatant selfishness. The conflicts are often perpetuated by the inability to resolve the disagreement.
While it is nice as adults to no longer be in that time of rollercoaster emotions, I must admit that I witness many cases of adults who do not know how to resolve conflicts either. Strangely enough, talking about someone behind their backs does not help to put a disagreement to rest!
Application: The Bible gives us so many helpful instructions on how to live life. Clearly conflict resolution was already an issue 2000 years ago. This is one area where Jesus actually gave some simple clear steps on how to resolve conflict – God knows we need it!
1. If you feel someone has wronged you, go and speak to them about it.
2. If that doesn’t work, go to them again but take someone with you.
3. If that doesn’t work, let someone in authority know about what has happened.
4. If there is still no change, you must move on from them
None of these steps are easy nor particularly pleasant. However they are helpful to allow healing within yourself as well as resolution towards another.
Prayer: Lord, while we are all made in Your image it seems that we are all so different from each other. Help us to guard our tongues when disagreements arise and do the right thing when there is conflict. Amen.
This article was written by Linda Bailey
Linda started theological studies in 1999 in Australia. After working for ten years in various church ministries, she now works as the breakfast producer at 89.9 LightFM - the Christian radio station in Melbourne, Australia. She writes blogs every day about passages she is currently reading in the Bible. Follow her on Google Plus +Linda Bailey or Facebook by clicking the like button on the right of this page.